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SOME NEUROTIC MECHANISMS IN JEALOUSY, PARANOIA AND HOMOSEXUALITY
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Jealousy is one of those affective states, like grief, that may be described
as normal. If anyone appears to be without it, the inference is justified that
it has undergone severe repression and consequently plays all the greater part
in his unconscious mental life. The instances of abnormally intense jealousy met
with in analytic work reveal themselves as constructed of three layers. The
three layers or grades of jealousy may be described as (1) competitive or normal, (2) projected, and (3) delusional jealousy.
There is not much to be said from the analytic point of view. It is easy to
see that essentially it is compounded of grief, the pain caused by the thought
of losing the loved object, and of the narcissistic wound, in so far as this
is distinguishable from the other wound; further, of feelings of enmity against
the successful rival, and of a greater or lesser amount of self-criticism which
tries to hold the subject’s own ego accountable for his loss. Although we may
call it normal, this jealousy is by no means completely rational, that is,
derived from the actual situation, proportionate to the real circumstances and
under the complete control of the conscious ego; for it is rooted deep in the
unconscious, it is a continuation of the earliest stirrings of the child’s affective
life, and it originates in the Oedipus or brother-and-sister complex of the
first sexual period. Moreover, it is noteworthy that in some people it is
experienced bisexually. That is to say, a man will not only feel pain about the woman
he loves and hatred of the man who is his rival, but also grief about the man,
whom he loves unconsciously, and hatred of the woman as his rival; and this
latter set of feelings will add to the intensity of his jealousy. I even know of a
man who suffered exceedingly during his attacks of jealousy and who, according
to his own account, went through unendurable torments by consciously imagining
himself in the position of the faithless woman. The sensation of helplessness
which then came over him and the images he used to describe his condition -
exposed to the vulture’s beak like Prometheus, or thrown bound into a nest of
serpents - were referred by him to impressions received during several homosexual
acts of aggression to which he had been subjected as a boy.