1912
THE SEXUAL ENLIGHTENMENT OF CHILDREN
(AN OPEN LETTER TO DR. M. FÜRST)
Dear Dr. Fürst,
When you ask me for an expression of opinion on ‘the sexual enlightenment of
children’, I assume that what you want is not a regular, formal treatise on
the subject which shall take into account the excessive mass of literature that
has grown up around it, but the independent judgement of an individual doctor
whose professional activities have offered him special opportunities for
concerning himself with sexual problems. I know that you have followed my scientific
efforts with interest and that, unlike many of our colleagues, you do not dismiss
my ideas without examining them because I regard the psychosexual constitution
and certain noxae of sexual life as the most important causes of the neurotic
disorders that are so common. My Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality, too, where I have described the way in which the sexual instinct is
compounded and the disturbances which may occur in its development into the function of
sexuality, have recently had a friendly reception in your journal.
I am expected, therefore, to answer questions on the following points:
whether children ought to be given any enlightenment at all about the facts of
sexual life, at what age this ought to happen and in what manner it should be
carried out. Let me admit to you at once that I find a discussion of the second and
third points perfectly reasonable, but that to my mind it is quite
incomprehensible how there could be a difference of opinion on the first point. What can be
the purpose of withholding from children - or, let us say, from young people -
enlightenment of this kind about the sexual life of human beings? Is it from a
fear of arousing their interest in these matters prematurely, before it awakens
in them spontaneously? Is it from a hope that a concealment of this kind may
retard the sexual instinct altogether until such time as it can find its way
into the only channels open to it in our middle-class social order? Is it supposed
that children would show no interest or understanding for the facts and
riddles of sexual life if they were not prompted to do so by outside influences? Is
it thought possible that the knowledge which is withheld from them will not
reach them in other ways? Or is it genuinely and seriously intended that later on
they should regard everything to do with sex as something degraded and
detestable from which their parents and teachers wished to keep them away as long as
possible?