1916
The second great problem which exercises a child’s mind - only at a somewhat
later age, no doubt - is the question of the origin of babies. This is usually
started by the unwelcome arrival of a small brother or sister. It is the
oldest and most burning question that confronts immature humanity. Those who
understand how to interpret myths and legends can detect it in the riddle which the
Theban Sphinx set to Oedipus. The customary answers given to the child in the
nursery damage his genuine instinct of research and as a rule deal the first blow,
too, at his confidence in his parents. From that time on he usually begins to
mistrust grown-up people, and to keep his most intimate interests secret from
them. The following little document shows how tormenting this curiosity can
become in older children. It is a letter written by a motherless girl of eleven and
a half who had been speculating on the problem with her younger sister.
‘Dear Aunt Mali,
‘Will you please be so kind as to tell me how you got Christel and Paul.
You must know because you are married. We were arguing about it yesterday evening
and we want to know the truth. We have nobody else to ask. When are you coming
to Salzburg? You know, Aunt Mali, we simply can’t understand how the stork
brings babies. Trudel thought the stork brings them in a shirt. Then we want to
know as well if the stork gets them out of the pond and why one never sees babies
in ponds. And will you please tell me, too, how one knows beforehand when one
is going to have one. Write and tell me everything about it.
‘With thousands of greetings and kisses from us all,
‘Your inquisitive niece,
Lili.’
I do not believe that this touching letter brought the two sisters the
enlightenment they wanted. Later on the writer of it fell ill of the neurosis that
arises from unanswered unconscious questions - of obsessional brooding.¹
¹ [Footnote added 1924:] After some years, however, her obsessional brooding gave way to a
dementia praecox.