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These considerations appeared to me incontestable; but I noticed that I had
made no impression either upon the poet or upon my friend. My failure led me to
infer that some powerful emotional factor was at work which was disturbing
their judgement, and I believed later that I had discovered what it was. What
spoilt their enjoyment of beauty must have been a revolt in their minds against
mourning. The idea that all this beauty was transient was giving these two
sensitive minds a foretaste of mourning over its decease; and, since the mind
instinctively recoils from anything that is painful, they felt their enjoyment of
beauty interfered with by thoughts of its transience.
Mourning over the loss of something that we have loved or admired seems so
natural to the layman that he regards it as self-evident. But to psychologists
mourning is a great riddle, one of those phenomena which cannot themselves be
explained but to which other obscurities can be traced back. We possess, as it
seems, a certain amount of capacity for love - what we call libido - which in the
earliest stages of development is directed towards our own ego. Later, though
still at a very early time, this libido is diverted from the ego on to objects,
which are thus in a sense taken into our ego. If the objects are destroyed or
if they are lost to us, our capacity for love (our libido) is once more
liberated; and it can then either take other objects instead or can temporarily return
to the ego. But why it is that this detachment of libido from its objects
should be such a painful process is a mystery to us and we have not hitherto been
able to frame any hypothesis to account for it. We only see that libido clings
to its objects and will not renounce those that are lost even when a substitute
lies ready to hand. Such then is mourning.